EVEN CHILDREN SHOULD LEARN TO MEDITATE
Meditate … I dreamed about it for years. Finding the inner calm, an oasis of peace away from daily stress, worries and anxieties can not reach us anymore, this sacred parenthesis in the heart of the self or or, at least for a moment, when everything and everyone sees perfect, as it should. I gave myself the right to open this parenthesis in my life two weeks ago. I finally managed to overcome my resistance of the unknown and I committed myself to participating in weekly meditation sessions with the Tibetan Buddhist temple in my neighborhood. A new adventure begins. A fascinating inner journey, just a few minutes from my house. The young ones look at me leave every Wednesday night, ill at ease in front of their father's enthusiasm for this unusual activity, but they are nonetheless somehow intrigued. On my return, an avalanche of questions are waiting for me: how was it? Do the monks have a long red dress like in the movies? Do you pronounce some (aumms) during long minutes? I smile every time. Yes, the master who teachings meditation wears a red tunic. No, there is no (aumms) on the menu. Only teachings about Buddhist philosophy and some very simple meditation techniques, which we practice together in a large room full of golden statues of Buddha. I love it … First, because I feel like I'm traveling whenever I enter this colorful temple, but mostly because I feel I have finally succeeded in opening a door and entered into a room full of light and promises. Meditation, the teacher explained to us the first evening, calm our cerebral restlessness, purify our thoughts, chase away our gray clouds, increases our ability to concentrate, free's our creativity, alters our perception of things and events and, in turn, increases our optimism for facing life.
BECOMING A MORE SERENE PARENT
Within a few months from now, my children will have a new father. I made then believe in the dream of a Zen Dad who will react much more calmly when it becomes difficult to open the bedroom door because his teens are too messy, a dad who can better choose his words when the pencils chests is empty and the pencils disappear, even after having to repeat fifty times let go of Face book to do your homework, or help your Mom do the dishes, and when the after class retention's start to multiply. Two or three breaths and presto! The lid of the boiling pot will fall back in place just in time before I start adding my teenager by names like (sort of heartless, selfish, messy, lazy, soft dough, future Jail Bird) and all those adjectives that are hurtful names that we sometimes yell to our children when in anger, without always realizing that we are sowing in them the seeds of their identities. Of course, nothing has changed yet! When you aspire for a substantial transformation you must be prepared to spend the time and energy required. In my case, it means getting up early every morning, not to train my muscles, but my mind. A few minutes a day at first, then try gradually increasing the length, as do the athletes who train for a marathons. The beauty of the thing is that this type of training is available to all, whatever our physical condition.
CHILDREN CAN ALSO MEDITATE
(Anyone can do meditation and it can be practices at any age, recently said the Buddhist monk, Matthew Ricardo, in an article published in January 2008. Even children love it, it's simple: they are asked to keep their attention on a flower, a stone or an image of a butterfly. It is something relaxing and fun for children and has been proved without a doubt to help children). Mr. Ricard even sees the practice of meditation as an effective antidote to violence at school. So then …. what if we spread the good news in our schools? The therapist Melanie Gambino started teaching yoga, tai chi and meditation to schools in New York. The results, it looks, are very conclusive. She said the regular practice of these activities helps young people better manage stress and to forge a positive image about themselves. With us, the idea is slowly gaining ground. Some primary schools in the Montreal area have begun to offer yoga sessions to their students. This more active form of meditation would also help calm the hyperactive child physical and cerebral, while increasing their ability to concentrate. And God knows that children need if we are to believe the dramatic increase in Ritalin prescriptions in our schools. Stresses our children? Undoubtedly. Perhaps because they are asked to do rather than letting them be. To be at the height of our expectations, to inflate our pride when we meet other parents at school and they can see your child perform in all spheres of life. Perhaps also because they see us going in all directions, without apparent purposes other than to earn more money to buy some temporary material comforts and happiness which evidently will always leave us wanting more and more. For some real and easy free meditation videos have a quick search for Lilou Mace on You Tube.